How to Win Over a Guy in the Different Stages of Attraction

Guy and gals are different aren't they, and not just physically but even emotionally. Unfortunately we often don't know how to speak each other's language or even interpret each other's behavior. As women we often judge a man's behavior through our feminine lenses and we get totally confused or we are misled. In the game of love how do you win over a guy?

1. First meeting. You know he likes what he sees when he gives you the second look and if you are a little more observant and are able to see the pupils of his eyes and you see them expand when he looks at you then you have a winner. To win a guy over at this stage you need to maintain eye contact for a while and then shyly look down and after a few seconds look back at him. If he is a distance from you, you will notice that he just cannot stop stealing glances at you.

At this stage his attraction is purely physical since he doesn't know you beyond what you look like. Most ladies can tell that a guy is interested at this stage since he cannot help staring. But just because a guy is interested does not mean that he wants to go beyond the looking stage. It is like when you go shopping and catch a glimpse of a shoe that you just adore but depending on a host of factors you will either try it too see how it fits or you will just admire it and then leave it in the store. That's the situation the guy is in at this stage....he likes but he isn't sure whether he should take a closer look. If you want to win him over you must encourage him subtly!

2. Assessment. He likes you enough and his circumstances are such that you could become a part of his life. He will try to attract your attention by chatting you up and depending on how interested he is to you; he will touch you slightly on the arm or shoulder. A non invasive tentative touch as he tries to gauge whether you are as interested in him as he is in you. This is like you in the shoe shop trying the shoe on and seeing its fit and comfort. If you want to win him over then mimic his actions, if he touches you lightly then do the same to him. Don't be hot and heavy and don't under any circumstances tell him all about yourself in that one sitting. Be light and interesting without pushing him to make a decision about you. Just enjoy this time with him!

3. He calls you after the 1st meeting. He likes you enough to want to see you again and to win him over at this stage you must come through as interesting but with a life of your own. Don't play mind games with him but know that for you to be interesting to him you really must have an interesting life. We make a mistake at this stage by chucking out all our other interests in favor of a guy who isn't even sure whether he wants to spend most of his time with us. Do not make this mistake. He can smell desperation a mile away and it will drive him away. Each relationship progresses differently from another and you must open up progressively to the guy in a natural way. Don't rush but let each of you be comfortable with what is happening at every stage after this. No one but you knows what is right for you and what is not. Listen to your instinct and do not (ever) do anything that you are not comfortable doing.

If you can successfully navigate through these 3 phases then you can win a guy over at each stage and maybe even have a good relationship.